| Playing Nice, and Other Lessons From the Field: The First 18 Months |
| Written by Sandra Fortier, LMSW | |
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Lesson #1: What do you do again?
Additionally, most people do not realize that a large number of social workers are employed as clinical social workers or therapists. When I began working as a therapist, some people would respond “Can you do that as a social worker?” In the past eighteen months, I’ve learned the importance about being very clear myself about what I do and to develop a short “sound bite” that explains my job to others. “I’m a social worker” just doesn’t cut it, so now I add, “I provide therapy to children in foster care.” Just adding a few more words improves the public’s understanding of our profession by leaps and bounds. Lesson #2: What I learned from “Hooters” (Yes, the restaurant chain)
Graduate school was such a thrilling, energizing experience. In class, we were all there because we truly cared about people and social justice. We were fighters, liberators, the staunchest advocates for every marginalized person, and defenders of equality. We were led by our professors, who prodded us to constantly examine issues from various cultural and ethical perspectives. While most of us weren’t actually out in the community fighting these battles, we felt strongly, we spoke strongly, and we wrote about it all in our class papers. Naturally, I assumed that when I entered the workplace as a social worker, I would again be surrounded by like-minded people who cared about the issues I did and were up for the battles I thought social workers were supposed to fight. Not so. Outside of the academia microcosm, social work is filled with diverse people with diverse backgrounds, beliefs, personalities, and motivations. There are social workers who live their lives in pursuit of social justice...and there are social workers who are simply employed as social workers. There are even (to my shock!) social workers who are employed as social workers, but hardly work—and, no, talking on your cell phone to various friends all day does not count as working. Social work is just like any other field of employment: there are dedicated employees, marginal employees, over achievers, and people who should have been fired a long time ago. Rather than assume my own opinions about social justice will be shared by fellow social workers, I’ve learned to accept the diversity within the profession. I’ve learned to share my beliefs about social justice when appropriate and to recognize that, although we share credentials, we don’t all view social justice in the same way, nor hold it in the same place in our hearts. Lesson #3: Learning to Play Nice with Others
Take public schools, for instance. Teachers did not always agree that a homeless student’s unruly behavior is understandable, or that children arriving late to school may have real excuses for their poor attendance (like a mother using drugs or lack of a family vehicle), or that children without winter coats are entitled to be provided with one. In a residential treatment setting, non-social worker colleagues often did not agree that punishing behavior is not best practice treatment, or that a child’s worsening behavior can sometimes be the result of emotional healing, or that every child, no matter what they have done, deserves unconditional love, affection, and respect. No, colleagues do not always see things through “social work” lenses and, as a new social worker, I have perfected neither the fine art of winning others over to my side, nor the art of tolerating momentary injustice in favor of the “big picture.” No, my technique had been more of the bulldozer kind, which, believe me, often gets you stuck in the mud. On my muddy trek through my first eighteen months as a social worker, I have learned that the loudest voice is not necessarily the one heard. Also, kindness and validation go a really long way, as does acknowledging that professionals usually share the same intentions if not the same means. Lesson #4: A Social Work Family
These lessons were sometimes difficult to learn, sometimes energizing, but nevertheless essential to my own growth and development as a social worker. I reflect on my first eighteen months with the knowledge that by learning these lessons and sharing this journey with other beginning social workers, I am stronger and more prepared for the next eighteen.
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